A picture is worth a thousand words but what are words worth? It depends on the words doesn’t it? It may even depend upon how the words are delivered (text, social media, or how about a handwritten card or letter?).
Sometimes, like when someone dies, words simply don’t do it. Certain moments are better served by gestures. I was reading a lovely blog post a week or so ago and something she wrote really stuck with me. It may have even been how eloquently she expressed her thoughts. In essence, she said we shouldn’t assume or take for granted certain things about people in our lives. Sure, we may be thinking about them but they don’t know that. With that in mind, a significant mantra expressed to writers is, “show don’t tell.” Not only is this relevant to the art of writing but it applies whole-heartedly to life as well.
When we have thoughts about those we love, or admire, or respect, we should act on those thoughts and not simply tuck those thoughts silently within ourselves. When I think my step-mom could use a pick-me-up I’ll write her a letter or maybe give her a phone call. When I want to show a dear friend how much he’s appreciated, I’ll bake him his favourite cinnamon buns or pizza bread. My husband bringing home grocery store flowers just because, is his way of saying he loves me or that he appreciates something I’ve done. Making a batch of cookies for my neighbour whose dear sister is fading away from cancer. Sis, remember this — I thought you’d like to have this photo to remember that trip. I’ll get those groceries for you on my way home. I’ll walk your dog today to give you a break. The many friends who made and delivered soup, or entire meals, for my husband and I while I was recovering from a stroke.
Showing (not telling) sometimes involves flowers — or cinnamon buns.
such a beautiful post in words mixed exceptionally well with your lovely images. it brought tears to my eyes.
These are all wonderful suggestions. It’s not always the thought that counts—it’s the action, whether it’s a small gesture or a grand one.
I didn’t realize you had stroke, Diane. That must have been terribly frightening. My action is to tell you how much I admire your zest for all that is good in this world. You inspire me.